Haven’t you heard people say all that I needed to learn, I’d learned by the time I was in Kindergarten. I think for the most part that true, but you know I’ve noticed that some people forget this crucial lessons as adults. What am talking about? Well put aside the fact that some people aren’t good at math or spelling, that happens. I’m talking about basic etiquette, and maybe this is a culture thing, but general things that I have noticed grown folks doing. Maybe they’re forgotten, so just in case you need a refresher course here it is:
- DO NOT PICK YOUR NOSE IN PUBLIC: I really don’t care what you do in private, hey that’s your own time. And I get that sometimes you may need to attend to your nose when it’s not convenient, but there are tissues, you could go to a bathroom. And brushing you hand against your nose because it is itchy is not what I am talking about, that’s permissible. But I don’t want to watch as you try and jam you knuckles into your cranium in a desperate attempt to touch your brain. It’s not going to happen. Lastly I know that I said that I don’t care what you do in private, but your car is not considered private. You are in an enclosed glass vehicle, we can see you. No it’s not one of those one way mirror type deals, where you can see out and we can’t see in, again, we can see you. The only exception to that rule is if you tint your glass so dark we can’t see you, and that’s illegal in California and New York.
- DON’T POINT/STARE AT PEOPLE: It’s not nice. Remember that saying, “when you point at someone, three fingers are pointing back at you,”? Well it may be kind of a dumb saying, but really don’t point at people. And in a less literal sense, just don’t make someone feel bad by pointing them out in any sort of fashion, that’s not nice.
- REMEMBER TO SAY PLEASE AND THANK YOU. Honestly, it doesn’t take more than a couple of seconds to say it. Time it, “thank you”, there I just did it. It took two seconds to do it and it’s free. It also tells people that you have good manners, that you weren’t raised in a barn (for some reason that saying came to mind). I like to hold the door open for the person behind me, and there have been a few times that the people gave me a dirty look, as if there was something odd about being well mannered (I can only assume that they were raised in a barn). Sometimes they make dumb comments, don’t make a dumb comment, just say thank you. And when you are ordering your food, if you say please you are more likely to receive better service.
- DO NOT RUN WITH SCISSORS. I think most of us have this one down. But for some reason I thought of some goofy little girl, maybe her name would be Peggy Sue, high off of a fruit juice box, running around with scissors. I think as little Peggy Sue got older she probably made more bad decisions, she wouldn’t be the gal to bounce your ideas off of for feedback. In a grander sense of the idea, don’t do something stupid that’s going to hurt you. (See how if there is a gray area of doing something stupid that won’t hurt you, I call it the wiggle room for funky choices).
- DO UNTO OTHERS AS YOU WOULD HAVE THEM DO UNTO YOU. Or as you were told when you were little, “how would you like it if someone did that to you?” In general, this a good rule to follow, if you don’t like it, odds are someone else isn’t going to like it either.
I am sure there are a ton more that I forgot, but so far that’s my list. Also the nose picking this is what started me off on the idea that what we learned as kids still apply. What’s on your list?