I know that there are days when we feel a little down, or on some days pretty down. Maybe we feel a little lost, or on some days quite lost. Sometimes we are a little confused, or completely unsure. It happens from time to time, doesn’t it? While we work our way through our problems we can sometimes feel a little bit overwhelmed by it. I have been trying to work my way through life’s little details and at times it’s more of a challenge than others to maintain a positive outlook on things. Then there are some days when I find it just down right impossible to grin and bear it, for Pete’s sake it felt like everything I owned with a battery was determined to commit suicide. That’s when I give myself a little time to be a grumpy little thing. The allotted time frame for this wallowing is strict, while I don’t time it exactly I do have an internal clock which alarms with the following words: now that’s enough you hear!!! It’s a loud determined internal voice, and if I press the snooze on it, an invisible hand comes out and slaps me on my cheeks straight away. Awaken from my moment of misery, and with a sore mental cheek I get a cookie (or some other treat) and a cup of something comforting.
I have a philosophy (actually I have a lot of philosophies but this is the applicable one) and that is: life works out the way is was meant to be. It took me a while to realize that. When we’re young we always want our way, and when we can’t have it we feel disappointed, along with other emotions. But with time and experience I realized that it turns out the way it should, that all I can do is put forth my best effort, listen to my heart, hope for the best and be prepared for the alternative outcomes (I was going to say worst, but I don’t think the term is right). Once you let go of any preconceived expectations you won’t be disappointed, you will find that you are just living. There will be surprises, challenges, and the need for creativity as you adapt to arising situations. Once I adjusted my way of thinking I realized that I was the one who created my own disappointment and that I was wasting my time being upset. Now this is to say that I still do create certain expectations, but I try to make them loose enough so I can adapt them as needed. I still do become saddened when things don’t feel right, but I take the time to think about the problem objectively and try to fix it when I can. And I still have my off days, but I’ve learned to forgive myself when this happens.
Lastly is the title of this post. Daijoubu is Japanese (and that’s the kanji for it in case you were wondering). Daijoubu means don’t worry, usually people say it twice, as if to say don’t worry, don’t worry it’s alright. It’s pretty informal, and I am using it as a sentiment. Because sometimes we just need someone to tell us not to worry, that everything is going to work out. It may not be how we wanted, but it will work out and life will go on.
Take us home Bob.
Thinking of you,