A Happy Peach

Things that make my heart smile…


Fashion Project Update or How I Learned to Stop Worry and Love Donating…

Forgive the attempt at of poor use of the Dr. Strangelove title, it’s just that I had written a draft of this post with the singular title of Fashion Project Update. Here is a revised version:

I just thought I would write a post with an update. It took a little over two weeks for Fashion Project to process the donation once received. A couple of correspondences revealed that they do not send a confirmation of receipt email and they were indeed backed up from donations. Happily all of my donations met the requirements and as a reward I am to be sent a Nordstrom gift card. Which is great because the Anniversary sale is forthcoming.

I have another bag packed and ready to ship, yet I am still hesitating. I have two reasons for my hesitation. One is that I am not positive I am ready to let go of the items as they are attire from a long gone and missed time of my life. I think letting go of these things signifies my letting go of part of me and it makes me sad. And I wonder if I will regret it, I know when the time comes I will just buy new clothes then, but that doesn’t console me as doubt seems to plague me.

And there were my issues. I think I’ve resolved them, because that’s the best thing to do when you have a problem is to solve them. Initially I was annoyed a little at the selling price, given how much you spend, but you have to let it go. It is what it is. I was also wondering about how much money the charity receives percentage wise. It was around 30%, I know that they have costs to cover and well you just have to accept that and let it go too.

Now for my personal hesitation. After chatting with a great rep I realized that I am not the only one who wonders if they are ready to part with items. She gave me some good advice:

Once you send it off the sadness goes with it.

I thought that was a wonderful way of looking at it. It gave me the courage to take the parcel to the post office. It also reminded me of Chinese belief a friend once told me about. She said that when you give away something with bad luck you are also giving away the bad luck, or something along those lines. I believe that a lot of things are weighing me down. After I dropped off the package I felt a lot lighter and a bit more accomplished. Now to weed out some more things. Matter of fact I just ordered some more things online for the summer. My closet has never been bare, I doubt that I will ever get to that point. But believe that I can streamline my situation. I hope to be able to fit everything in my dresser. We shall see.

On another note, I heard this song last night and was trying to remember it. I looked it up and could not tell from their playlist which one it was, as it was a satellite radio station. I finally figured it out tonight. I have the CD, what beautiful luck. I can’t believe I couldn’t remember off the bat. So here it is…

That intro is just fantastic, and to end it with that piano, amazing.


The Lost Art of Cursive…


I have heard that cursive is going to be obsolete. Which is quite sad, is that what happened to calligraphy? Maybe not, since calligraphy is a stylized way of writing. Maybe that is what will happen to cursive, it will be relegated to the font-o-philes who cherish all aspects of typography. I would be one of those special folks, I do enjoy typography as an art form. This post is making me think that I should take up calligraphy again.

There is something pretty about it, although my writing is not great (as evidenced by my chicken scratches above), but when done properly it is beautiful, dignified and elegant. I think  it is quite special because there is something quite distinctive about each letter written. When I think about it, there is something so personal about handwriting and by extension handwritten notes. There is something wonderful reading a letter from a loved one. I tend to save them, it’s one of the sentimental things I can not bear to part with. I am not so sure that I would save a text as LOL doesn’t communicate real sentiment. Emoticons are cute and fun, but sometimes a thoughtfully jotted letter can make one’s day feel that much brighter. I wonder if there is a campaign to revive the handwritten letter, if so where can I sign.


Oh, To Be The Cat…

Sleepy KittyAll hail the cat.

The furry creature that can nap in any urban jungle.

The warmth of the concrete greets his flexible and lethargic body.

The soft breeze and gray air entices him to relax his guard.

Here Tom shall rest.





Shaken and Stirred…

We’ve been having a lot of earthquakes here in Southern California recently, tectonic plates shifting and all.  Last night there was a slightly bigger one, no real damage, just a bit of shaking, and about 100 aftershocks. Growing up here you are used to them. They come every so often and a certain section of the population panicked. While the rest of us roll our eyes, no one died and while there is always some sort of damage, it’s nothing that can’t be fixed. It’s just part of living here. We joke that you should buy beach front property in Colorado, for when California does fall off into the ocean. 

I don’t remember the details, but I do recall there being an earthquake on the east coast. I don’t think they get that many so they may not know how to react. I read that some folks just walked out during it; which is a mistake. All those drills as kids taught us to duck and cover under our desks. Or go in a doorway, I don’t know if that’s still true. You basically don’t want to get hit should stuff be thrown around by the shaking. You want to stay safe, although I never got my earthquake kit ready. I really should, right? But we have plenty of water and food, although you should keep cash on hand. I have a bad habit of not keeping the stuff on me. Alright that goes on the list of things I need to fix. 

Hope your ground is stable. ♣

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Morrie, Soft and Sweet…

My taste in music is rather eclectic. I used to say that I like everything but country. But I have to tip my hat to the Kenny Rogers, after all he is the Gambler. I have found that I prefer soft and sweet music more often these days. Perhaps I am looking for that calm in my life. A bit of soothing for the soul. I have a thing for Asian laid back vibes. Slow, soft and sweet.

A really nice choice is Morrie. She is a K-Indie (Korean Independent) Artist. Her melodies can relax the soul if you let them. She sings in English, so that is a bonus for us (if you are reading this you can read english most likely, right?). If you want to know more about her, here is an interview she did which I found through this blog.

Here is a bit of her mellow for you to take in.

Gentle Smiles

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Yet Again…

OK, I’ve got this. I must tell you I jot down ideas which now sit idly in my notebook. I have written a few blog posts only to discard them. They were a little too depressing. The abbreviated version is that I haven’t been taking good care of myself as I have had to put the needs of others first. I am trying to remedy that, one of my desires is to blog again. It’s a lofty goal, there’s a but that goes there…but it seems unnecessary right now.


Time For A Change…

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA For too long I’ve had almost fixed dour look on my face. Which is completely unusual given my normally more ebullient nature. I have been trying to force myself into better spirits. I twist my situation around in hopes that I can find a version of things that I can be OK with, that somehow I can find a way to be happy. But I realize that in the back of my head I keep thinking that things can go back to the way things were, but I realize that is impossible. That in reality time is linear and we cannot go backwards, we can only try to make the best of things now and hopefully improved in the future. It’s one of those things that can be hard to accept, and when you don’t realize you are trying to go back to the past in some way, it’s even harder to move forward.

I know that I have wanted to write posts but not for one reason or another been successful. I have also seen two wonderful bloggers stop blogging this week. We all have our reasons. I am hoping that I can find time and content to blog about. So maybe some things will have to change, but change can be good, not an end but the start of something different.

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I Hope You Never Need This Info…

Dear Friends,

I have been trying to finish up this post for a while now.  But have found it hard to complete, perhaps due to its personal nature of this topic, and my reluctance to post overtly personal subjects. But I think that in a general way it can be of some assistance should anyone find themselves in a similar situation.  So here goes:

  1. Should you ever find yourself in a position where you or a loved one needs intensive medical care, know your rights. I am not sure how it is in other countries but in the U.S. (at least in California) you have certain the right to question the advice and choices being made for you. Not just the medical advice, but also if you feel you are not ready to be discharged, especially if you feel you are being forced out, you can file a hospital early discharge appeal, from that point till the decision is rendered you may continue to stay in the hospital. A nurse should never talk about money only about your care. This wasn’t our case, but I found myself talking to a lot of people about different things and thought it was an interesting tidbit
  2. I think it’s pretty well-known that healthcare here is not really affordable, and a lot of times it feels like a business they were running rather than caring for people. But if you can’t afford the ridiculous prices it doesn’t mean that you have to go off into a ditch and pass out in pain. It probably means you have to fill out forms. In fact there are signs all around medical facilities telling you this. You just have to know to ask, odds are if you think you need help  financially there is something that can be done to help you.
  3. These sort of things are extremely stressful by nature, not just for the people who are going through it but also their families. There isn’t anyway you can just sit back and relax, but do not just suffer in silence. Try to take care of yourself too, it’s very hard but it’s also very important. You cannot care for someone else if you yourself are not well. All too often caregivers go through a burnout which affects you mentally and physically.
  4. Talk to people, again it’s that whole suffering in silence thing. It is not healthy, talk to your friends, family, people of faith, whom ever is willing to listen and care. Support groups can get you in touch with people who are going through the same thing, I will say that there is nothing like the comfort of someone who has been there or is facing the same challenge as you, because they understand best. Let it out, it’s OK to cry, to have feelings, and to feel a bit weak.
  5. Try to remain hopeful and keep as positive an attitude as you can. I know situations can be dire, and I am not saying don’t prepare yourself for the worst, what I am saying is that you have to devote more of yourself to having as positive an outlook for each day. I know it’s hard, but each day with the people who you love is a gift. Tomorrow isn’t promised for anyone; let’s make the best out of each day.

Well that has been what’s on my mind. Maybe five should have been one, as it’s the most important in general. Or maybe the list builds up to the most important. That’s how it finally came out of my head. I do hope all of you are well and greatly loved, that those around you are well and appreciate you. And should any of you need to talk about things I am always here.

Hugs to you all,


P.S. This song from the original J.T. is a nice sentiment.



As For Me…

My Dear Lovely Friends,

I have missed you a great deal. But family problems are the main reason I have stayed away from blogging. Right now my time is not my own and I feel like I am running on empty every waking moment. This feeling of being drained even follows me into my slumber, so whatever little sleep I do get is not very restful. Basically I am a hot mess. Writing this sort of post feels wrong for at least two reasons:

  1. The beloved moniker of this blog is A HAPPY PEACH, not a miserable rotten peach.
  2. The reasons that have kept me away are personal and it feels so awkward to blog about the deep and personal parts of my life.  Now I don’t mind corresponding with friends via email, but actually posting it publicly feels oh so wrong.

But it’s funny how I think of my internet friends, I wonder from time to time what is going on with you and wish that I could somehow find times to read your wonderful blogs. Then I am quickly swept away from that warm moment back to my duties. 

I have found one bright spot, our family crisis has brought us closer together again. Bridging what havoc time and differences had brought upon us. I find myself longing to write, the only thing is that I am not sure what to write. Ideas come in quickly and depart at an even faster rate as I become distracted with the things I must do. (Note to self, must carry notebook). I hope for a change, but fear that I have little control over such things, all of these events echo the truth that we have little control over many things in life. All we can try to do is learn from our mistakes (as well as others), make the best of things right now while trying to lean towards a better path. I find that daydreams can be a useful tool when trying to maintain one’s sanity in a dire situation.

I hope to write again soon, but don’t want to jinx it (I think I’ve been considering luck a lot lately). I would like for it to be a better topic.

I hope everyone is well and will try my best to visit everyone’s virtual homestead.